How to help those in the message
So how do we help those that are still in the message?
They probably don't want your help (or mine)
People in the message are fearful. Message ministers constantly preach fear to their congregations. They say, "Don't go on those websites!" or "Stay away from the internet!" or "Don't you go questioning the prophet or his message!" Fear creates anxiety and can prevent people from interacting with a former message follower.
So how do you deal with this fear?
It is important to take things very slow.
It is also critical to understand cognitive dissonance and to recognize it when you are confronted by it (and you will be).
Things not to do
Things you need to avoid with people who are in the message:
So where do you start?
This is especially important for spouses or family members that are in the message.
Imagine the following conversation with your mom/dad/wife/husband:
This last question is difficult to say "no" to. However, it is important that you ask the question truthfully. I think all of us want to find the truth and it is important to search for the truth.
If the message follower responds with a "yes", then they are potentially on a journey towards truth. It depends on their attitude but, if they are sincerely interested in helping you find the truth, this is a big first step.
The Socratic method
Socrates was a famous philosopher who died in 399 BC, over 2400 years ago. He developed a method of teaching that is referred to as the Socratic method which is still used today. It is simply using questions to get a person to find the proper conclusion for themselves, without having to tell them.
An example of the Socratic method
Q: If Bro. Branham was a prophet then all of his prophecies will have to come true, correct?
Q: I was doing some research on the internet regarding Bro. Branham and some people say that some of his prophecies failed.
A: But that's not true.
Q: So can you help me understand why these people are wrong?
Q: Bro. Branham said in sermon in 1959 that:
So Bro. Branham said that 16 men died building the bridge across the river, correct?
A: That's what he said.
Q: So can we try to find the evidence that the 16 men died like Bro. Branham said they did?
From this point, you can use the facts which can be found in our article on the Municipal Bride vision to ask further questions.
NOTE: It is critically important that you do not provide any of the answers. They must search for the answers themselves.
Sometimes, it is important to even pretend that you don't get it. Continue to simply ask the questions. Don't tell them they don't get it. Just simply keep asking the questions.
If you don't understand how to do this in the context of your situation, please feel free to send us an email and we will try to help you out.
Where do we go after we deal with the first question?
Only after you have had the message follower do the research themselves (DO NOT DO THE RESEARCH FOR THEM but you can do it with them), and after they have reached whatever conclusion they are going to reach (which may not be what the facts say), do you go on to deal with a second question.
We have a long list of questions which can be found in our article entitled "List of Issues with the Message". You can go through this list and deal with them one at a time.
WARNING: Do not deal with multiple questions at once as this is likely to trigger cognitive dissonance. Only deal with one issue at a time.
It is CRITICAL that the message follower is the one to do the research and to arrive at the conclusions. YOUR ONLY ROLE IS TO ASK QUESTIONS.
If you have concerns or run into issues while you are engaged with a message follower using the Socratic method, please feel free to send us an email.
A comment we received from a former message minister
In my personal experience in dealing with message believers, I found the shock almost overwhelming when they hit a cul-de-sac.
You may find the message believer going quiet or refuse to continue the discussion, but the seed has been sown.
Many returned months later to thank me for helping them open their eyes to the deception.
But, be warned, it takes a lot of patience.